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Continuous Professional Development

for Therapists

THE DEFEATED CHILD -

Social Masochism & Patterns of Self Defeat

THE WOUNDED SELF

 

How to work with SOCIAL MASOCHISM AND THE PATTERNS OF SELF-DEFEAT - THE DEFEATED CHILD

 

This workshop will concentrate on healing the masochistic wound of the defeated child.

 

Many people have some masochistic tendencies in their personality.  A strong masochistic adaption is a response to an overwhelmingly powerful parent who broke the will of the child and left no way for the child to defend himself, save one – self defeat.

 

The only way to defeat the other was by learning to enjoy one’s own defeat.  Underneath, lies a chronic hopelessness, pessimism and despair.  Pleasure is experienced as a threat and will lead to anxiety and guilt.  Pleasure invites control or punishment from the internalised, bad parental object.

 

The most common response from the therapist is frustration which, if acted out, shames the client.  Denial of frustration leads to a dead therapeutic relationship.  Change involves accessing forbidden feelings of rage and pleasure, and tolerating the anxiety which will arise from the deep fear of again being beaten and having one’s heart broken.

 

The workshop will enable you to:

 

  • Identify masochistic behaviour and its functions

 

  • Understand the developmental events that lead to masochism

 

  • Understand the need for guilt and self defeating behaviours

 

  • Learn how to work effectively with frustration

 

  • Learn how to support the emerging, natural self

 

 

Date

This is a 1 day workshop.  The next date for this training will be on:

Friday, 28 February 2020

 

Investment

£120

£10 DEPOSIT required to secure your place

Please complete and submit the BOOKING FORM below and confirm your method of payment (you do not need a PayPal account to securely and conveniently make your payment here - select Guest checkout)

Balance of fees required not less than 4 weeks prior to the commencement of the workshop

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For our Training Terms & Conditions, please see here.

 

If this date is not suitable, please let us know by registering your interest in this training and we'll contact you when we have the next dates arranged.

 

Venue

Coleby Centre, Sidcup - 1st Floor, 2 Alma Road, SIDCUP, Kent DA14 4EA

Easy access from the A2 and A20, 30 minutes from London Charing Cross/Cannon Street to Sidcup train station

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